|gambar hiasan. Tankuban Perahu, Indonesia|
1. Judging people, dont overdo it.
I have a habit of judging people, according to their acts and words.
Im very paticular about what words he/she uses, the gesture, the tone, and i compared when he/she use it to others.
Even sometimes, i will ask them, and clarify their own sentence to my own interpretation.
No offence people, i dont question you.
Just to make sure i dont interpret thing in a wrong way.
I come across a conversation with my love diela dahlim, and she shared with me how annoying people can be by just talking.
And that helps! Thanks dear, You know how to 'tame' to me well, as always.
I learn that, keeping the comments to ourselves rather that telling them to others, preserve us from being annoying, and at the same time, keeping us away from sins.
(remember? MUSLIMS SHOULD NOT JUDGE OTHERS, and think about other people nicely)
Bad habits of judging and commenting others, wether you mean to do harm or not, might give people wrong impression.
I always prefer to believe the best of everybody, it saves so much trouble. ~Rudyard Kipling
2. Never explain yourself, those who like you wont need it, those who hate you ignore it.
Woa i like that sentence, taken from a blog i like. Explains me a lot.
Sometime we tend to explain ourselves, as we afraid of giving people wrong impression.
Now that i learn this, i come to a conclusion, no matter how you explain, your act will be the one who speaks for you.
They wont believe, wont care no matter how much you tries if they choose not to.
So, keep the explanation yourself.
(or write it in your blog, they cant argue then.
In the mean time, let people discover YOU.
Dont let your habit grows into an obsession. Then you are at second point, at the art of annoying people.
3. Be nice, be helpful, be humble
Be nice. The greatest gift can be given at 0 cent, that is kindness. The outcome? Priceless.
Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day.Be helpful. Dont count your deeds, count the rewards that Allah promises us so.
~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
I asked a friend once, how to get rid of the feeling of being used when people asks for help?
He told me to, believe in myself, that people who seeks for you are in trouble and they have their trust on you.
What i can do, maybe she/he cant do. Islam teaches us, never turn down a request just by feeling of not wanting to help, but to offer the best help we can give.
It is the greatest of all mistakes to do nothing because you can only do little - do what you can.~Sydney Smith
How can we be so proud, so satisfied as we never know which heaven or hell, is destined for us?
Astaghrifullahala'zim.. La Haula Wala Quwwata Illa Billah..